Can you learn to be more emotionally resilient?

Jul 31

By Amanda Da Silva, B.Hkin, B.Ed, and M.Ed

5-minute read

You may be wondering how successful leaders don’t burn out even when they experience acute levels of stress at work.

Not only do they not feel overwhelmed, but they seem to thrive in the face of challenges and are able to handle adversity much more effectively. It all comes down to emotional resilience.

These people do not lead a charmed life and they certainly are not immune to frustration, anger, and worry. They face the same problems most of us do but it’s the way they choose to deal with those problems that makes all the difference.

Resilient individuals can overcome setbacks because they make an active choice to persevere in the face of difficulties.

Their actions are rooted in emotional intelligence, accurate thinking, and realistic optimism.

They do not let fear and doubt dictate their behaviour or the decisions they make. In addition to that, their positive perspective of the experiences they go through further enhances the personal resources they have at their disposal, which allows them to demonstrate more emotional resilience and by extension achieve more success.

You can be more emotionally resilient by:

● Practicing acceptance: stressful events are a part of daily life, and you are bound to encounter a situation or go through an experience that causes you some level of discomfort. Start by recognizing the temporary nature of those negative feelings and know that they won’t remain with you forever.

● Setting boundaries: sometimes, the people in our lives set unrealistic demands and expectations for us, so much so that we begin to feel torn in various directions. When you feel paralyzed in the face of everything you’re prompted to accomplish, it’s time to establish strong boundaries and look after yourself and your well-being first.

● Developing supportive self-talk: your inner critic is what depletes your emotional resilience and what prevents you from embodying the level of confidence and assertiveness you aspire to. Trying to cultivate more supportive self-talk is key to developing emotional resilience because it’s that support that will guide you through adversity and help you manage stress more effectively.

Emotional resilience is not an innate trait that you are either born with or you’re not.

It stems from adapting to everyday stressors rather than unique circumstances.

Emotional resilience is a quality and a skill that can be cultivated and developed. While it does take a great deal of effort and perseverance, this is a good investment to make in your own well-being because it allows you to effectively manage stress and achieve emotional equilibrium.

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